Are you trying to take any "baby steps", or are you looking at "leaps and bounds"?
What goal would you be able to see accomplished within a week or two time frame?
If you were that famous woman golfer, sinking that 30 foot putt with ease, what spot would you be aiming for that was in line with the hole?
What small step could you see realized that would help you feel less anxious, and less worried, about your relationship?
"What will be the very first signs that things are moving in the right direction?"
As far as my husband calling me.
One baby step that I would know meant we are moving in the right direction could be:
He calls me twice a week. He calls me from his house rather than work. He calls just to chat, see how I'm doing, rather than to talk about what we need to do next towards moving in together. (Although I'd be happy about that phone call too.)
Baby steps towards being intimate: Reaches for my hand to hold. Kisses me at some point other than just goodbye kiss. Hugs me at some point other than just goodbye hug.
