Tim, I was just passing by here but your words speak directly to me as well. Thanks. My thread is in Newcomers 'I thought I had the Perfect Marriage' and Infidelity PM Thread #2 f you ever want to visit or comment.
Katatal, keep up the good work. I think we are at the same stage emotionally at the moment. DB'ing like crazy trying and hoping that our WAS would notice the difference. But Tim is right, we need to be a friend now and not expect anything otherwise we are the ones who will get hurt and I am DONE being hurt. Had enough and don't need anymore, thankyou.
I have had my share of snooping and confrontation. But nothing good came from any of it, my curiosity was satisfied but so what. It changed nothing, the situation remained the same and our R suffered from the confrontation. It took a few months but I finally stopped snooping. I feel like I am flying blind at the moment but also a lot less hurt. I think I like this option better.
Sounds like you are really beginning to think things through. You are doing good work on yourself.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
