Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[Trixi]

Yeah, the holidays really can be such a sad time.

I haven't had a chance to tell my H that my mom said "no" because since he's in Turkey, we've only IM'd a couple times and he is really suffering from jet lag.

What I have done is made a reservation at a restaurant for 6pm for H, daughter, stepson and myself. Thanksgiving at my mom's starts around 1'ish, eat around 3pm. I won't eat much.

I still kind of go back and forth; I feel like he was actually sort of 'manning up" by not running away. Actually, he initially said that he would be okay being around JUST my parents, but not the whole clan. But then later said that he was up for the whole shebang. That means he DID realize that it could hard on him and he was up for it. Oh well. Moot point.

Yes, the WAS did make a choice.
did you H indicate that he wished he could spend it with you? or was his preference to be alone?