Well chicki....STBX responded to my detachment with an email outlining what he thought was a fair settlement for our D. When I got it I felt the pain of moving towards our final seperation, but then gradually it faded. I will wait about a week to respond to his unfair proposal with one that I feel is more balanced. Sad that when they dont get their way they lash out. I had a feeling that I would be getting that email soon. Sad thing is, the @sshole could not even wait one more week for me to be done with Chemo before wanting to talk about the divorce. One day, when he wakes up, he is going to feel sooooo horrible for his actions. I say GOOD!
lwb, I spent the weekend up in Columbia with my brother. He was the one I moved to when the A came out. My SIL and I went shopping and I bought myself some cute things....she kept commenting on how skinny I am. Yeah me! Then I went and saw "the secret life of bees" with some friends that I made up there and had a glass of wine afterwards. It felt great to feel so loved and secure. When I came back, my PMA was so high that I felt like "I am woman, hear me roar!!!!" I think that was why I was able to just walk in w/o STBXH effecting me in any way.
YOu all have been so kind to me. Thank you for being there every time I needed to pick myself back up. It is because of the strength and wisdom that I find here that I have been able to navigate through this journey through h#ll. You all have a special place in my heart.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
Ok, I know I am suppose to be the peaceful warrior and all, but right now I cant. STBXH introduces his OW to the family then begins to push for D while I am finishing my chemo treatments. Well, today it feels like Karma just smacked him. While on his way to my house, he was not paying attention to the road and ran his small car right into the back of a SUV. Apparently it crushed the front of his car and broke the radiator....over $1000.00 in damage and he only has liability coverage.
When he called, I did not answer the phone. By the third call I answered and he wanted me to know he was ok. Here is the really sad part, I actually did not care if he was ok. I feel awful that I did not care, I prob should, but I didnt. All I kept thinking was "If you had to go to the hospital, I would not go and visit you." I hate that I feel this negative and will work to let go of the bad energy. Still, it does feel a bit like Karma.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
STBXH emailed me that the car was totaled and he is going to have to buy a different car. He could only qualify for $2500.00 because his credit is so bad. All I kept thinking is "Sucks to be you". Then I was going through my browser history (STBXH stayed at the house this past weekend) and it seems he was on his facebook account a ton. I dont know much about facebook, but he kept going to the "yesnomaybe" section???? Anyone know what that is? PLUS, he kept messaging a woman who is NOT OW. Even sent her a naughty nudge??? All I kept thinking was. "Wow, thank god I am not in that mess anymore." It actually made me feel a little bit sorry for OW....not alot mind you, just a sliver.
So here is his new and wonderful life that he threw away his family and friends for: No money and his girlfriend keeps having to pay for everything, he even owes one bank some money because he bounced so many transactions and went into the hole he just decided to open an account at a different bank, no longer has a nice car but is going to have to drive around in a piece of junk, has been demoted at his job, living with a woman who is not attractive and has a very low self esteem, and his blood relatives have all lost their respect for him, and worse of all his son doesnt trust him at all. But, hey, he is the happiest he has ever been. I say "Good for you!!! Guess what, Me too!!!"
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
I recommend setting up your own account and do some exploring. The naughty nudge is most likely a graphic or animation (More elaborate "Smiley faces").
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Just remember H is still very confused about what is really important. We just need to take the higher road and feel empathy....(That is the healthiest thing for US)...
*HUGS*
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
