So xh did it again. And the worst part of all of this is you don't know when there are lies and when their is truth.
He called today about 30 minutes before he was suppose to pick her up---- yet again another "i can't" apparently he was sick...do i bleive him don't know..kinda yes --but then there is another part that says he always lie's.... He did ask if he could have d12 for this next weekend... i didn't object. Doesn't really bother me...as long as he stops letting her down. It is just ridicuolous!! So, we change the rotation (which hasn't been in play since JUNE!!)
I was "nice" asked about Thanksgiving as the d papers say that he is suppose to have her... he of course has no idea what the papers read.... goood grief!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Mine always forgets what the holiday schedule is too...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Oh, GOD!!! Once again, I am RIGHT THERE WITH YOU!!
My kids are going through so much right now and S9 is not dealing well. H just gets critical of S9.....and tells me to quit blaming all of S9's problems on him......
It's tearing me up......I'm not dealing well......
I'm so sorry that you are hurting. But I hope it's true what everyone tells us---our kids see the truth. They already know, or will realize when they are a little older, who was really there for them. Who they could really trust and count on. And I'm pretty d*mn sure it won't be H!!
Knowing that doesn't really make it any easier to live through this awful time, though......
Last edited by tpaschal; 11/12/0808:34 PM.
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
so stupid. if my son or daughter were in love with someone who DID NOT love them I would say move on its ok...look beyond him/her, But me? nope dont do that do i.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is to set that person free. This will allow them to look at what is broken in their life and fix it. We are detaching out of love for them and love for ourselves. It is toxic to be with someone who is irrational and unloving.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
