PnT..when you said you almost called your h to accuse really struck a chord with me...last summer on my h birthday..I had been wondering what was going on with h and ff..they work at same place..I drove by and her car was not there..his was not at his (different buildings..I was so sure they were together..I called his cell phone ready to let him have it..ask him to leave etc.....got his voice mail..later he called me back and I did not say a word as he told me he had been at the other building...from that day on and then finding the bb, I never assumed again..as had I said what I was going to he would have probably filed..now he did end up leaving in Nov..but not under any kind of terms like those would have been...you know what they say about "assume"..you sound like you have all the right tools to being patient, and I know that is HARD..
