Good Point Pup. Maybe sometimes I use this board to vent too much and that gives people the idea that it's all doom and gloom, and it's not.
I can honestly say, except for the week AFTER vacation, the last couple months have been about as normal as they can be, and W seems to be more of her REAL self each day. Maybe the Alien has left the building and will only return for a visit periodically.
Break, Thanks for that. I hadn't thought of it that way, but you're correct. The last couple months I've been the one she's chosen to bit*h to, and that's a good thing. That's what spouses are supposed to do.
Dash, I'll keep posting normal if it helps. I just don't want to get my expectations too high or jinx myself. This is as close to normal as I've felt in going on 2 years. At least I think I remember this as normal.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
Another really nice evening at home. Talked and talked. Watched the CMA awards. This was a concession for me. I really don't like Country music, but W has started listening to it sometimes. OM is a country music fan so I'm sure that's where her interest developed, and that's hard to take sometimes, but I did my best to pay attention and discuss the different artists with her and comment on their performances. And I'll admit, SOME of them were ok. I'm not going to run out and buy any of their CD's or anything, but I will at least not make my usual comments about a type of music that she's interested in.
Now if that's not LOVE, I don't know what is
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
That made me laugh out loud. I watched it with my H last night, too. He feels the same as you. Did you notice all the songs about infidelity, though? Stay by Sugarland, another one by mcbride I believe......
Another really nice evening at home. Talked and talked. Watched the CMA awards. This was a concession for me. I really don't like Country music, but W has started listening to it sometimes. OM is a country music fan so I'm sure that's where her interest developed, and that's hard to take sometimes, but I did my best to pay attention and discuss the different artists with her and comment on their performances. And I'll admit, SOME of them were ok. I'm not going to run out and buy any of their CD's or anything, but I will at least not make my usual comments about a type of music that she's interested in.
That made me laugh out loud. I watched it with my H last night, too. He feels the same as you. Did you notice all the songs about infidelity, though? Stay by Sugarland, another one by mcbride I believe......
I also know that watching Desperate Housewives the last couple weeks has had an affect on her. Lots of infidelity going on there, but they're painting it with the pain it brings which is different than normal Hollywood portrail of A's.
And like I mentioned before, W and I have had a couple of conversations recently about different people we know who's spouses have cheated on them and my W has made comments like she "get's it". Maybe she's just one of those that can separate others having A's from hers with they're doing something wrong, but for me and OM, it was different, but who knows how it's affecting her when she won't talk to me about this stuff.
But yeah, Country music is full of cheating etc. Guess it's real life.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
Well, we can put up a good front, but it can't help but affect us. It's a painful reminder for me whenever a cheating song comes on, or some friend talks about the whore who was cheatin on so and so, or some movie, etc. Natural consequence. My H never rubs my nose in it...doesn't need to....
Another very good night at home. I went and picked S20 up from school so he could go to our hometown for the weekend. We had a nice conversation on the way home.
When we got home, the 4 of us sat in the living room and had a nice family time. Laughing, joking, talking. Just good.
After he left, W and I sat and talked about our day, W bit*hin to me about her boss and telling me all the stuff she had going on. It was just good.
So this morning I get to work and have an email from OMW. All it said was "One year ago today I got your letter". Which was the letter telling her what was going on.
How the h3ll do I respond to that? I know some of you will probably say to not respond, but I already did. Told her that anniversary's like this suck and that I'm sorry we had to meet in the way we did. I also updated her a little on how W and I are doing, that we seem to be making progress and things seem to be getting better and better each day. I then told her I hoped things were going ok with her.
So what do ya think?
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
Letter sounds fine to me. It will be interesting what she will say to how things are going with HER. Either way, remember...it DOESN'T MATTER....what your wife and I are doing is good. You guys are going to make it.
