I think she blames herself more. But that doesn't erase that she did walk out of the marriage and got the D ball rolling that destroyed her kids. And I've seen her do some really negative things (like sleep with every guy in town!). Things to hurt herself and her kids as well. She introduces guys to the kids. And a few years ago her youngest who was around 8 was calling the guys her "Mom's boy toys." Nice role modeling. That kid will grow up having healthy relationships... right....
On the positive side.... she doesn't blame her XH or talk bad about him. Also, she really does want a decent relationship with him for the kid's sake.
Oh... one more positive. She's no longer sleeping with every guy in town... progress!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
