The girl Amanda, whom I've suspected is interested in my husband answered his phone when I called him.
Now, she is also friends with his roomates, and she could be there babysitting my husband's roomates baby for all I know.
Still, it was quite upsetting to have her answer the phone. It's not really my husband's phone, it's his roomates phone, but that has a distinctive ring for him to know if the caller is calling for him.
Bleh.
In any case, I asked her to take a message for me. To tell my husband that I called, that I love him and I can't wait to see him again.
Can I count that as a pathetic attempt at a 180? Previously (before seperation) when I had contact with her, I would call him up and accuse him of cheating on me.
For all I know she is a friend, has only ever been a friend and I'm upset over nothing.
I called my husband at his work. He apologized for not calling me yesterday, said he meant to but didn't have the time. (I hadn't expected him to, so that was really nice of him! He apologized for not doing something I had no idea he was planning on doing!) He said he's been reading more in the book and is now going to start reading it from the begining, instead of jumping all over.
I told him I had left him a message with Amanda, that I couldn't wait to see him again and then called him at work. He said he couldn't wait to see me again either and he had the tender, loving tone.
He said, "Amanda was there? What was she doing there?" I said, " I don't know, she answered your phone when I called and got me all flustered."
He said, "Oh, heh, she babysits for Mike and Karensa."
(I guessed right!!)
He said he was happy that I tracked him down and told me that his store is doing the tax free sales...so he's extremely busy.
Duh! I should have realized that instead of sitting here feeling sorry for myself!
Can you imagine how stupid I would have looked if I had called him up accusing?
And he gave me reassurance without me asking for it. So, he's perceptive to my feelings!
PnT - you were not being stupid at all so no apology necessary.
You were making an assumption based on past experiences - which is perfectly normal. But you played the waiting game (when you don't know what to do, do nothing) and were rewarded when H called you.
You're right - it was a great phone call. Hope the weekend is a good one for you.
PnT, Thanks so much for your welcome to Piecing. I have not had time to read your other threads, but from this one it definitely sounds like you guys are on the right track.
You are both understandably treading lightly. It seems that the most important theme of most of the folks here at Piecing is reestablishing trust.
Good luck. I think I probably need to reread DB as well now that I'm over here...thanks for the reminder!
Not sure if I would be excited or scared if my H said he wants to read DR. I don't think he will...he knows I'm on this BB but he's very respectful of my privacy, and I think he thinks of this as "my" thing even though I haven't said anything to discourage him from reading DR or being here.
But I digress...anyway, best of luck to you and I look forward to reading about more positive developments!
PnT..when you said you almost called your h to accuse really struck a chord with me...last summer on my h birthday..I had been wondering what was going on with h and ff..they work at same place..I drove by and her car was not there..his was not at his (different buildings..I was so sure they were together..I called his cell phone ready to let him have it..ask him to leave etc.....got his voice mail..later he called me back and I did not say a word as he told me he had been at the other building...from that day on and then finding the bb, I never assumed again..as had I said what I was going to he would have probably filed..now he did end up leaving in Nov..but not under any kind of terms like those would have been...you know what they say about "assume"..you sound like you have all the right tools to being patient, and I know that is HARD..
PnT - Great news about your date with H on Friday and him staying overnight.
I'm sure you'll be getting a lot of advice between now and then but I hope that H does want to talk about what he read so far in DR. What do you have planned so far?
Right now, I'm planning on cooking him a turkey dinner, as it made my dad happy! I'm thinking we can go see Bruce Almighty at the dollar theatre as it's a love comedy...or so I've heard.
And I've figured out what nightgown I'm going to wear.
But at this point, I haven't really lost weight since the last time I saw him...just toned up some. And yes, last time he said he was ready to make love again, but I'm really scared.
I know I need to get over this and fast before Friday.
Hope the weekend is a good one for you.