Worse before Better?

[Sophie]

Fairly? I don't think the papers indicate he is thinking fair enough for me to feel safe in mediation. But, I don't know what mediation really means. I would rather discuss all this without the battle lawyers take on....

H knows I am pretty strong...he knows I am smart and has feared all along that I would burn him. This may be a huge step in H taking cntrol of something.

He diserted us. I have stepped up to the plate already. I am okay with the financial arrangment that has worked for 3 years.

But, H has slowly lost everything over the 3 years and now he does not have a second job to support his bachelor pad and it occurs to me he is doing whatever he can think of to bail him out of his money problem.

I don't have anymore money to contribute.

This D paper filing isn't going to remedy his bill problems immediately...I'll contest and it'll be, I'm not sure, how long before anything is settled?

I can't see this as a very smart move on his part for anything that he wants. I still think he reacted out of anger, frustration, fear and anger. He's panicked.

If I were rich and made all the money in the family then he'd have some money to tap into.

I don't have any money. I teach from home, so that I can be a full time mom....and all that money goes to the kids and this house and paying for everything the kids do...everything.

H knows this. I can't imagine where he thinks he's going to get money from me.

I can only see being ordered to sell the house, or buy him out...but, he won't get but 10 -20 thousand (which is a lot for him). So, maybe that's his aim.

I just think it weird that after I acknowledged his papers and stated I am now forced to get a lawyer that he asks if there is a chance for mediation! Why didn't he ask me about that first?