Well heard from H today. Called to make sure I am paying taxes on the house. I told him I was...He then brought up the health insurance. He must have found out from his L today that he will be off my plan effective Feb 1.
Needless to say he was not very pleased. I tried told him this is all a part of what he wanted. To be rid of the marriage. I would prefer to have him home and covered, but he made this chocie.
He then was too funny. Right now we are on the same auto and homeowners. He pays his share and I pay mine. Mr. tough guy says he will get his own and I will then have to pay for the homeowners myself. I told him it was legally his home as well and his repsonsibility for half, but if he feels he needs to do this....whatever (it is only $23 a month).
I said goodbye and hung up as I told myself I was not going to let him get to me. He was realing. I think he was in shock that i am doing this.
Doormat no more. As far as I am concerned h has 3 options: Get a new job with benefits; get help and come home or have no benefits and roll the dice.
So, fast forward to 2:30. D13 calls and says she has detention after school and she said she didn't know it. I was unaware. I asked her to call her dad to tell him to not expect her home after school as I had a meeting to go to.
When I get out of the meeting i have a tm from H asking where d13 was. I explained the situation and he, via tm, starts in asking if I believe d13 that she didn't know, should he call the school, etc. I told him to do what he wants. I would like to talk to d13 first before I would call the school, but if he feels it necessary he should do what he wants.
My phone died. TMing stopped. I had a student at my desk doing a project and answering my phone while I was helping someone. I could hear my phone ring several times and when I came out my student said that someone kept hanging up. I am sure it was h looking to spew at me. Glad I was busy.
D13 called me. She said she talked to H and he was pretty mad. She was snoozing when I got home.....so I don't have the full story.
SO.....that's that. Tomorrow is friday. Taking monday off since the kids are off for parent/teacher conferences.
Snodderly: How long can I expect the spew from this? Part of me hopes this hit him over the head like a ton of bricks. The cake eating was getting too much to bear. I am still standing...as I will not help him with the D....but i don't think I have much hope left.
When I finally file for child support (I haven't yet since H pays the mortgage), it will be a rude awakening for him. All the money he thinks he will have from the sale of this house...he won't. He now knows I mean business.