Thanks LE. You know it really wasn't that hard. Since I've discovered that there is life outside of being married to my W; it's easier to get past the fear of losing her. THAT fear, I believe, is why I ended up so codependent on her. Couple that with making the kids the center of the marriage and her mental health; we were a time bomb. I tried with every tool I thought would work to control her and save the M. Obviously, we've all learned that doesn't work.
This whole process has been very liberating for me. I still fear the process of D and still not sure that I want it; but I certainly don't want the M that I HAD.
I've got a young co-worker here and, just today, I discovered that he has a crazy battchitt W. I gave him a little snippet of my sitch and he laughed saying, "we need to go for a beer, and talk. We got something in common." So I think as therapy for myself; I going to hear this guy out and see if I can't point him the proper direction to deal with his problems. It's sad that this is so rampant.
Again, thanks for the words of affirmation. It's always nice to recognized; even for a humble man. WOA is not my LL; so you know. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
I'll get with James later in the alt. univ....Thanks.
Sorry, WoA was the best I could do, are you QT or Gifts? I'll probably draw the line on PT or an AoS! LOL.
I had a glimpse of life after M with the seller flirting with me last week. Need to go see if she is around the office. Yeah, take what you've learned and get the kid headed in the right direction with his M. If anyone can be spared the problems we're going through by the lessons we've learned then all the better. Take him to see "Fireproof" if he has that much trouble. Although with the strong religious message that might be a turn-off to him. IDK.
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
I've been reading up just never seem to have time to post as much... I don't know what you guys do all day :-) maybe it's my 6 month old and 4yr old that wear me out by the end of the day...
Anyhow, great to hear W didn't go bar hoping last night... remember notice the small things right now ...
I also went back to current thread and listened to some of the youtube songs.. LOVE "tomorrow" those words are so true... I think I'm emailing that to my H someday...
hang in there
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
TX Mom.. I work for an employer funded by your tax dollars. I just happen to have a computer on my desk with an Internet connection. So I can keep up when it's slow.
The song, "Tomorrow" was a submission by Yenko. I'm glad you like it. However, thank him for the submission; he's on this forum as well.
