When THEY let go of US

[Cinderellaman]

Nutty, thanks, it's always good to hear from you, you bring clearness into some of this ! And yes, you are a great mom !

Beginnersmind...thanks so much for dropping in !

Glam, you're on the right path and I have been praying for you sweety ! Good luck !

MWG ((((hugs)))) right back at you ! Thanks for always dropping by and seeing if I'm doing ok ! xxx

[Cinderellaman]

Sooooo...

H ow and his family (parents and brother with partner) are all off to NY for a long weekend in December !!!!

I can't believe ow gets to take my place and do all the great stuff, like weekends away across the continent ! OUCH.

Oh well, I guess I will hold the fort here and pray that the days fly by with fun things to do for myself and my kids !

I must say that this does sting...

Oh well...life goes on.

[Cinderellaman]

By the way, BIL called me from his vacation in South Africa, to tell me he understands my pain and that I will in NO WAY be replaced in his heart. MIL has done the same...

I know they love me and are just trying to accept what life their son and brother has chosen, but it's hard. And yes, blood will always be thicker than water...then again, my kids are THEIR blood !

Take care, much love xxx

[Maya44]

I hear ya Cinders! My IL's haven't called D in the 26 months H has been gone. She's still their blood so I don't get how they can care so little! But then again, my IL's are all a$$holes.

[Dawn of Hope]

But then again, my IL's are all a$$holes.

Doesn't exactly have the ring of "my heroes have always been cowboys," does it?

[a new 2moro]

Cinders I hope too see a thread from you "when I let go of him" you so richly deserve soooooo much more than the little tidbits he throws your way only to shadowed over by what he does. after all the cad is still married .....shame on him and shame on his family for going on that trip.....

[Cinderellaman]

And yet....we must find ways to be greatful with what comes our way.

We have a saying here...Whoever isn't greatful for the small things is not worth the big things. Well, bad translation, but it comes down to us being greatful for all, even the small, so that we earn the good stuff too !

xxx

[Cinderellaman]

worthy...the word was worthy !

If we aren't greatful for the small things, we aren't WORTHY of the big things...

That's it ! A much better translation ! xxx

[Cinderellaman]

ow's grandmother died in her sleep last night. She was 80 years old. She spent her whole life with the same man. He is now alone.

H still did come to the hockey match and brunch, even though this happened.

I told the kids to call tonight and condole ow with her grandma. The kids were so sweet to her. I sent H a TM saying that I sent my condolences too and to wish them strength together.

What else can we do.

I am not a bad person, and I will not let the pain and anger make me a bitter and vengeful person.

So I did what I would have done to anyone else.

Of course it's not nice to imagine H and ow getting closer and closer by such things in life, like death, but H is gone and there is nothing I can do to change that. All I can be now in his life is a friend. I know that now and I accept that.

I have had lots of troubles with a good friend of mine, she has been suffocating our friendship, saying that I do not spend enough time with her and that she misses me so much, but we see each other nearly daily, and I too like to get together with OTHER friends...I like having many friends, she just wants one. Her husband is not a nice man, he has always made horrible comments about how I am not a good enough mother and how fantastic he is...anyway today the bomb burst after days of many many TM's sent by her to me, asking me what is wrong. I told her nothing is wrong and that I have no problem with her at all. Anyway, I thought all was solved last night, but today the TM's started again! Then she got involved in taking my D9 home after a hockey match in a nearby city, whilst someone else was supposed to bring D9 home. I was furious for the change of plans. This was the first time D9 went to a match alone and I told her many times she was to stick to her group and ride along with whom I arranged. D9 did a whole dramatics (tears and all) and convinced that friend of mine that she should take her home. (D9 knew nothing of the discussions that had been going on)and this friend sent me a TM saying she would take D9 to the hockey club. I called and said that it was not needed as I had made other arrangements, then she said, oh sorry, but that guy has left, as I told him I would take your D9. I was furious !

Here I was miles away picking up 4 kids from a party and taking them home and my D9 was in another city deciding HERSELF who to drive home with. I was furious ! At D9 and at my friend. Oh well....to make a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG story short, I ended up driving all the way there as they were taking HOURS to get home and I told D9 to get into the car, I told them I was angry at D9 for doing this and that I was sorry to have inconvenienced them. Then the a@@whole husband says....'you need to put things into perspective....you are over reacting...why don't you let your daughter have some fun with her friends'

Well, I think I nearly burst into flames, and I wanted to say SO MUCH (especially because these are the LEAST reasonable people I know in my life. when it comes to THEIR kids) but I turned around and walked to my car (boiling inside !!!) and left.

I told D9 off of course and she has been punished. I told her she does not get to decide who she rides home with. (In this day and age, you have to be careful)

SO....I ended up calling H about it...then later I sent him a TM with what that friend's husband had said and done to me, and he called me back and I have to say he was a great support to me, and I am greatful for that.

Sorry about the long post. Hope you are all well ! xxxx

[whitelight]

Looks like it's time to weed your garden of those friends. What gall that man has. What an idiot.