I "popped in" the Newcomer's Forum for a bit....Holy cow, I'm going to stay away from there I think. There are some HUGE chips on some of those people's shoulders...very defensive, and like Sirprizeme mentioned in another thread, some people just want to vent about how bad their life is. I just don't get that. Why would you want to whine to people you don't know and do nothing about it????!!! I may whine.....Heck, I definitely whine (I guess I am right now), but I wanted to hear how to make changes. It was frustrating over there.
I think there are some "newbies" over there who want someone to justify how they feel and give them the magic bullet to save their marriage without having to do the hard work. They're not buying and reading the books to really follow DB.
I remember when I first came to the board; I was in shock and I just wanted the pain to end. I had a few of the "regulars" come to my thread and try to help; but I think that I was on the fence at the time. So they left me. I had already purchased the books and after a few weeks I decided that I had to do DB for me; even if I was on the fence.
I'm not the greatest at DB; but I'm learning from some of the "regulars" now as they post on other threads.
I think "A in Ohio" is one of the hardest working DB'ers in Newcomer's. Some people, though, never get the program.
