Thanks LE. You know it really wasn't that hard. Since I've discovered that there is life outside of being married to my W; it's easier to get past the fear of losing her. THAT fear, I believe, is why I ended up so codependent on her. Couple that with making the kids the center of the marriage and her mental health; we were a time bomb. I tried with every tool I thought would work to control her and save the M. Obviously, we've all learned that doesn't work.
This whole process has been very liberating for me. I still fear the process of D and still not sure that I want it; but I certainly don't want the M that I HAD.
I've got a young co-worker here and, just today, I discovered that he has a crazy battchitt W. I gave him a little snippet of my sitch and he laughed saying, "we need to go for a beer, and talk. We got something in common." So I think as therapy for myself; I going to hear this guy out and see if I can't point him the proper direction to deal with his problems. It's sad that this is so rampant.
Again, thanks for the words of affirmation. It's always nice to recognized; even for a humble man. WOA is not my LL; so you know. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
I'll get with James later in the alt. univ....Thanks.
