My W has been living in a small apartment without heat and it's getting cold out. I said that she's gonna need heat pretty soon, because it is only gonna get colder form now on. So far, she has been saying that she has alot of blankets and that it's not that bad. Well, the last few weeks she's been getting sick and our boys stay over there too and they have had colds on and off. On Sunday, I saw the apartment for the first time (she used to live in a house but couldn't afford the rent anymore) and I checked the furnace to see what the problem was. Turns out, the furnace seems fine, but there's no gas hooked up to the building, and no meter. We had a nice lunch all together and then I left with the boys (she was not feeling good). I told her she could come over to the house and eat dinner with us and she said she would see how she felt that night. Later, she calls me and says she still feels like crap and will just stay there and go back to bed. She also said that she won't go to work the next day and she can pick up the boys, so I can work later. She will bring them to the house later and maybe we can have dinner together then? I said that was a good idea.
She texts me in the morning that she's looked into what it's gonna cost to get the gas hooked up and there is gas piped to the building, and only the meter is missing. So she's not ignoring what I am saying. Earlier this year, it seemed like anything I say was just dismissed. Then, at night, we eat dinner and she tells me that she really likes what I made!
Next day, she texts me: "Gas is being hooked up today, will have heat finally!" I reply: "Good! :)" Then she texts me: "Btw, you are getting good at the cooking thing :-)" WOW! Was that a compliment? An UNSOLLICITED compliment? I keep thinking of Sandi's comment that a woman needs to admire a man before she can desire him. Maybe I am on the right track? I know she also takes note on my running, every once in while if I have done a good run, like broke my personal record or something, I will text her about it, like in I want to share my accomplishments with you. She's always responded to those with some humor, like: "Congrats!!! I can run 3 miles in about 8 hours! :)"
On Tuesdays, she picks up the boys from the house when she gets back from work. I had gone to Home Depot to get her a Carbon Monoxide alarm, since that furnace hadn't been used in so long, I wanted her and the boys to be safe in her place. After we put the boys in the car, I give it to her and she's very appreciative of it, she's all smiling, leans over to me, like give me a kiss, and I do, she reaches out and runs her fingers on my stomach (it's a thing she used to do a long time ago and she's done this twice in the last week). Writing this, I feel like such a little schoolgirl, getting all excited about these tiny little things, but they are tiny little steps in the right direction (I think).
As far as the heat goes, the gas got hooked up, but the furnace has a problem, her landlord is getting that fixed now. So STILL no heat!!!
Anyways, some more babysteps I think. Keeping the faith!! faithrunner, lovehimso, nw and all others, keep checking in on me! I appreciate your views on this!
