TxMom- help I'm still hopeful -#2 post

[TxMomw/2girls]

Hope..

I talked to a few friends and some had some great examples of how it was when there parents split... said most guys if you give them space and expect them to lead the way especially with the kids they won't. My H is co-dependant on me and I never really new that until now... he follows my lead and does what I might ask.. for the most part .. and if I don't ask he won't ask either.. I'm realizing if I continue to wait for him to call his kids or schedule time with them he probably won't...

I have a business lunch appt Friday and my neighbor who picks my girl up at school can't do it.. I text H earlier and just asked if he could pick her up tomorrow.. he text back and said YES... that was it... but I don't want to talk to him I need some time for myself b/c my girls are so young I can't get anything done on the weekends... when my youngest starts crawling I definitely won't have time, also I want his kids to see him... if he doesn't offer this weekend to watch them the I won't push... but eventually I probably will have to take the lead on the kind of Dad he'll be to my girls - I just wish he'd step up...

Different for me as we have such little babies so I do need help and they do need him... not everyday but accountable couple times during the week.. Your girls are older and can speak for themselves so you need to follow there lead with there dad... but still see how he is responding... not stepping up either....

we'll see what happens