H has no grounds other than we have been seperated for over a year with no 'cohabitiation'.
The papers imply that it was an agreed seperation, which it wasn't at all.
Sophie, I have no experience with D papers (counting my blessings), but because of my H threatening the possibility, I have done a little online research into the D laws in my state. I don't know about the laws where you are, but my understanding is that in my state (which is a no-fault, 50/50 property split state), a D will not be granted without both spouses' consent unless the non-consenting spouse can be charged with adultery, abuse, etc. OR the spouses have been living apart--minimum one year if living apart by mutual consent, two years if not by mutual consent. Something to keep in mind when you see your L, which I think you should do, like, YESTERDAY.
I've heard that it's a good thing to take a supportive friend/relative (who knows everything and you're not shy about discussing delicate details in front of) with you to your first L meeting, to be an "extra brain" for you. However, there are lots of people here who have more experience than I do with D who can advise you better on that.
I wish you strength and courage as you travel down this road. Hang in there!
Peace and blessings, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
