I am definitely getting over anxious and have started to calm myself and set some new goals. I have set my focus on getting some things accomplished around my house that need to be done. At the cmpletion of these projects I will re-evaluate my position and review, what if any, signs had appeared. I need to see that she has hit the floor with all of this before I expect anything. She is not there yet and I have made myself understand this. AmyC the glass box analogy is defintely holding water here. She is moving in a way that would indicate she is "connected" to everyone and everything. She is not by any level. My older D is very upset with the fact that her mother told the MIL that she talks to her every day. the D went off. she barely speaks to her mother 1 a week. She is sick and tired of her mother putting her in this situation. Apparently the MIL questioned the kids. I called her and put an end to it. But the story is that the W is telling the MIL she connects with each child daily and knows whats going on. The younger D living with me gets a text message of hows it going 4-5 times aweek. Some actual face to face maybe 1-2 times aweek when she stops by the house and an occasional phone call about 1 a week. She apparently took it upon herself (the D) to text her mother to stop lying about how often they communicate. My son hears from her maybe 1 a week, he calls her. The last D, hasn't heard fromher mother in 3 weeks. It appears the worse her situation gets, the more connected she tries to make herself feel. Is this typically what happens? I feel much better now typing all this....I hate pestering AmyC and Sandi and Tgone with this, but this site really does make me feel better by letting me sound off.
Her wanting to send Xmas gifts to the kids form us is crap. This way she will have two things going for her: 1. She will be able to spend more cause it will be my money and 2. She will feel as connected as I am. There, said it, believe it.
