Amy, I'm worried about your H. He's drinking with the kids under his care. You are absolutely right that you don't get alcohol smell the next morning from one drink. And in the same convo he actually brings up suicide.
He is depressed....seriously...
Watch him...you can't do anything for him; but you might start thinking about a boundary here. Drinking with the boys under his care, in my mind, is an absolute NO-NO.
He's going to have to hit a bottom before he decides that he needs to change. I've been through the alcoholism, you remember my story. It's very hard. I actually think you are better off separated if he's turning to alcohol. At least you will not have to live with it everyday. It's going to change his personality from what you now.
