The results are in...Dust myself off & start again

[Silent Chrleader]

Hey, Treese.

I know what you're feeling about the pain in dealing with family relationships. I too love my in-laws and consider them my family and always will! I tried to call my SIL once (who had told me I could do so) and ended up talking to my BIL, whom I used to go to school with and thought I was pretty close to. And he was so distant and clearly didn't want to hear any of it! I didn't want him in the middle, REALLY, but it hurt so bad because he just didn't even want to hear it. And it hurts because I wonder if they would really talk to H instead of "being supportive" he might wake up! But, the truth is, H is so stubborn it might just push him down further.

As for the texts and stuff in front of you, I agree with YR that you should set those boundaries and say "no more" of that, especially with kids because they are not stupid!! But, also don't think that he's no feeling anything. They do, but I think they just push it away.

And as for the guy that asked you to the game. GO!!! It's not about starting a new relationship! It's just about acknowledging to yourself that there are other options and that's good for you to be aware of! I gave my phone number to good looking Hospital technician! I was in there overnight for a sleep study and he was the one that got to hook up all the "electrodes" all over my in my flannel pj's (not that's attractive!). But he has just gone through a very difficult divorce so we commisserated, and I told him about the buddhist meditation I have been doing and such, and he seemed interested so I gave him my number. I told him I wasn't hitting on him or anything. But it was a very freeing thing to do (since I've beeen with H since I was 17!) He hasn't called me and that was 10 days ago, but he did seem genuinely touched by my gesture and not offended at all, so even if he doesn't call, I feel it was a positive experience. [and I'll take all of those I can get!]