I read through Coach's posts last night. He recently reconciled with his W. This led to links about what works/what doesn't, what is important (living your life, loving your kids, making yourself happy) and what isn't (trying to analyze everything your spouse does, trying to help them, get inside their heads, etc.).
So I went home from night class and H was on the couch, I was upbeat and happy b/c I had enjoyed class last night, which is good b/c sometimes it is really boring...Anyway I was chipper and got myself some leftovers. H got up to go to the farm and check cows, I thought he'd left so I ran some clothes down to the laundry/bath in the basement. He was in there, so I left them outside the door.
I went back upstairs, H came up the stairs like he was looking for something. He looked at me then looked to see what I was watching while I ate (soap opera--cheesy!) and went back down the stairs. No idea what he wanted...
I heard the basement door shut and garage door go up. I went back downstairs to put the laundry in, ran up for more and came back down. Just about ran into h in the basement hall. I said, "Thought you were gone..." H said not yet. He came in and out a couple times, finally left so I got back to sorting clothes. A family in our town just lost everything in a fire yesterday and has 4 yr old twins. So I loaded up everything S6 had in a size 4T to take to school with me...
H came back while I was boxing up the clothes, he lay down on the couch and started watching family guy. I laughed along with him, then we watched scrubs and it was funny, too. We used to do that a lot, watch scrubs after the kids went to bed.
So when I was ready for bed at midnight of course he was still on the couch. I said goodnight, he said I'll be in in just a minute. I just said, "uh-huh" in a joking tone. Then I said "The bed is much better than the couch" H said why, I said, "B/c you get to cuddle with me!" and then I just went to bed. Didn't beg, plead, nag, etc.
At 1:15 [censored] (D2) got up, apparently had wet the bed. I didn't know that, but I heard something that woke me up. Got up and heard H and D in the bathroom, thought she just got up to go potty. Ran past the bathroom into kitchen so D wouldn't see me. Went back to bed after I heard H put her to bed, and HE was in bed in our bed...
I crawled in, said goodnight, and left it at that...
OK so that was a long ramble. I am just saying, I am focusing on me and my kids and my life like I should have been doing all along. And no, Woog, he hasn't gone to IC...
