One piece of advice that I read somewhere - even if your W says she doesn't want a gift get one for her anyway. It doesn't have to be expensive or anything extravagant but pick something up - maybe something that has a special meaning for her, or even something she's remarked about wanting but hasn't gotten yet.
My W and I spent years not getting each other gifts for Christmas and birthdays but I think that was a mistake - and a mistake I won't repeat, even if she tells me not to get anything.
Steady Those were my intentions from the start. We always were pretty extravagant with each other for Christmas and birthdays, and of course this year will be different...both because of the sitch and finances.
Over the last few months I have tested the waters with some little things I have picked up for her...nothing romantic and some just silly, and she has been pleased and receptive. I try to pay attention to her when she starts out a sentence with...I need, or I want..or I would like to have.
With her new interest in football and the Giants, I have picked out a couple silly things for her just to let her know I was thinking about her while I was out for the day, or shopping at the mall and they have gone over well.
