Last night was pretty much a non-event. The W did come home right after work. She didn't go do her usual Wed. night out at a bar that one of my co-worker's brother owns. My co-worker asked me if I wanted any copies of the video from the bar. Tempting; but I don't think that I could use it for anything since I live in a no fault state.
It was about 9:50pm when she got home and she had D ask me if it was alright if she stayed up and watched TV with mommy? D was excited to see Mommy last night. I told D that no, she had a hard time getting up in the prior morning; so she needed to go to sleep. There would be more chances to watch TV with mommy. D was little upset with me; but she'll get over it. I walked into the living room and told the W that I only put D in the bed because she needs to keep a schedule. Just because you choose to irregularly come home and get the kids excited; doesn't mean that they need to live THEIR life according to your schedule. She said that she understood and I noticed that the W had been crying.
We had a convo about all the maintenance that needs to be performed on her car. It's way behind on its scheduled maintenance. She asked about how much money she's looking at; I told her about $600 for the pulley and timing belt replacement; and about $45 for the oil change.
We talked briefly about the funeral that I went to today and about her nephew's 1st BD party that she isn't going to. I'm taking the kids at the request of my SIL and will enjoy myself without her.
So what did I accomplish? One of my goals is to see her stop going out everynight, especially to bars. I don't know if this is going to be her new routine; but at least it was ONE Wed. night at home in a long time. I kept up my PMA last night. I made myself unavailable during most the time that we were awake together. She slept on the couch. I was engaged in a texting convo with a friend from PHX (shut up Amy. I'm being good, I swear!). My 180 last night was standing firm agains the W's wishes that just because she was home and would take D to daycare this morning; I made my D stay on her schedule.
And to top it all off; I didn't really experience any anxiety with her presence in the house. That's a first.
