There are a couple of books that really helped me that maybe you could check out (other than DR and DB of course).

"Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody
"Surviving Male Menopause" by Jed Diamong.

These were both very eye-opening to me.

*And sorry for hi-jacking your thread, YR!!*

T

TJ

Me45,H49
D24,S18
M26,T28
Bomb 3/19/08
Sep 6/23/08
EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8
3/2009 H moved in w/OW2
7/2009 Let him go w/Love.
8/2009 Legally Sep'd