It was pretty calm. H called me after I got home from work, to tell me that he would be at least another half hour before they could leave the job site and he was probably going to stop for a few drinks. I said ok, but I wish you would have called me before I left my office because I probably would have stopped somewhere. He just said Oh. I said, well that's alright, have fun and I'll see you when you get here.
I was a bit bummed out, but whatever. I fixed myself a drink and got on my laptop. I was only about half thru my drink and he came home! Said that he drove by the bar and while there were lots of cars there, he didn't think he saw anyone that he knew? ????? Anyway, we had dinner together and a nice evening. He talked a lot about his work and it was a nice meal.
We talked about Thanksgiving and the fact that my parents are going to come for dinner. He seemed happy that they were going to come and that he wanted to spend some time with my dad. It was the old H., I have noticed even the tone of his voice is different and seems to be as it used to be.
The good mood even lasted thru this this morning. He didn't want to get out of bed, so I did coffee in the hot tub by myself, but then helped him with his lunch when he finally got up. As he went out the door he said that he would either be hunting to drinking tonight. Ok. Advance notice is good. He hasn't gone to the bar once yet this week, so I am smart enough to count my blessings. He also asked if I had to work on Friday (I do) because he wanted me to go with him to do some shopping. I can't, but it was nice that he asked.
How did your night go? Have you yeard anyting from our other sisters?
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
No not this am. BG had a rough night and wanted to call but I couldn't cuz H was home. Trying to be good when he is here.
Mt is mia this am. I'm glad your evening was nice. H is going to be off this Thanksgiving, which hasn't happened in years so I'm hoping it will be nice.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Hi girls!!! Hope glad you had a great night! That is wonderful! It was funny last night when H got home he said, What's for supper? I am actually hungry. That is the first time in a long time he actually asked for something, most of the time I am fixing something and then he says well he would eat. I just feel like I am in a holding pattern right now. So glad the tension has eased up some for you Hope!!
It is a holding pattern, with occasional little peeks at the man that we love, followed by sharp detours.
I never thought much about it before, other than the fact that I knew he was being different. Now I realize that it was everything!...in his voice, his words, his moods, his actions.....
I swear that the past 2 weeks his voice is now back (most of the time) to what it used to be. I can hear it. He has warmth in it again. I so enjoy that. Hope that it stays.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
namesake, first off, god i love you girlie, not just cuz we have the same name, but for providing the info mt and i needed to read, and for being you, and being a survivor.
you give me courage, when i am weak. thank you.
so glad your H came home last nite, baby steps.........
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
OMG! H called me...just to talk! He didn't need anything or want me to do anything...he had some time after lunch and he just called! He has not done that in months! We both enjoyed it, if was fun.
Ok, cautious optimism.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
Just as I was getting ready to leave work H called to tell me that he was home and had decided to go hunting. Wanted to let me know so that I wouldn't come home and think he was at the bar. Wow! We are making lots of steps. I came home and started dinner and he got home not long after that. He is seeing deer, but has not breen able to get a shot, so he has not been able to get anything with his bow. He's a bit down about that, but gun season starts tomorrow am so pretty sure that will quickly change.
We ate dinner amd watched football. All pretty calm and we both fell asleep before half time.
Calm is so good.
Too windy to get in the hot tub this am. H does not have to work but I do. He has hunting errands to do before tomorrow morning so I know he will be busy.
I was feeling a bit sad as I was leaving for work, wishing that I could be home today to go with him as he had initially proposed yesterday. I asked if maybe we could have lunch together today, but he said that he hadn't planned on coming downtown. Then he said, but I could if you want. I didn't say anything. I was thinking about how he jumped at the chance to come downtown and have lunch with the Skank...but again I just said nothing.
I'm getting the hang of this, but it's just a bit too bad that these little hurts sneak in.
As I was going out the door he asked me if I would stop to have some drinks downtown after work tonight, so he is probably planning on going to the pub. Oh well. Even though it's a Friday night, it will be the first time this week. That's got to be some sort of babystep.
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Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
