Quote: I wish he would tell me the truth...if he really..really does not to be with me TELL ME..I am stronger than most people think...I will survive.
Yeah, the question is...will HE Survive?
They are as unsure of themselves and what you're REALLY thinking/feeling about them as we are of them. We haven't cornered the market on feeling insecure, they're just as afraid of being rejected by us.
They are really torn about being around us. Their attachment to us makes them want to say YES, but their guilt and negative self talk makes them want to say NO.
As for you H not seeming to notice your "T-Shirt"....don't be so sure about that. Even in my Hs coldest moments I'd catch him sneakin a peak and then wonder why he acted like I was a cyclops so...who knows. It's almost as if they're ashamed to get those 'warm and fuzzy' feelings for us after having betrayed us so ruthlessly. It's all about thier guilt and not really about us.
My H is still acting at times like he wants to smack his own hand if he reaches out to touch me without thinking. They really are nervous, probably more than we are in alot of ways, because WE still know who WE are...they're the ones that lost their way and got confused about their life, the world and us, we didn't.
Keep that PMA up and keep being friendly around your H and before ya know it...it'll be pizza and a 'can I stay the night." T2
