Maybe he is unsure how to talk to you, confused about what his place with you is, so he sticks to safe subjects.
Can you plan some conversation starters before you see him. Philosophical questions, questions about his dreams, not necessarily about the relationship, but about his dreams, ambitions, or yours.
I forget what H and I talked about before kids, now it seems to be only that, but there is more, I think we need to rediscover it--our hopes and dreams for the future. There is still a lot of it to go.
