New morning,still feel flat. Ugh. Off to the gym before work today. Maybe getting my as7 on the treadmill will make me feel happier.
Tough meeting with some difficult parents at school this AM. My patience for their bul&sh*t has been really lowered by my time in Iraq. Kind of colors all I do, usually in a good way, however.
Back to mediation next week. STBX reminded me that next time S10 goes to orthodontist "we" owe $200. Who cares, it's my son. Teeth or hockey, who cares. D16 is back at school with a workload that makes my hair hurt! She is SOOOO smart, but this is SOOO typical of girls with eating disorders.
So little time to write my OWN thread. Sorry I haven't posted to you guys in a bit.
FLTC - Thanks for stopping over. I'm not familiar with your story, will try and catch up a little. You know what this place is like, you keep up with a bunch in general and if you do to many you get engulfed.
Took S10 to hockey tournament at 6AM! He played all day. STBX took the day off with him.
I go to MA tomorrow for Reserves. I'm supposed to drive to see D18 at college in NH, an hour away, to take her to dinner. That was BEFORE she stole $100 worth of change from me last week when she stayed here.
Should I still take her? She continues to lie to me about it. It's the SAME behavior that angers STBX, and why D18 can't go back home. I'm furious still.
FL, Don't be furious. Just be cool. But tell her. Tell her - look her in the eye and tell her regardless of what she says that you know what happened and it will not happen again on your watch. Then tell her it's behind you and you will not discuss it any longer unless she wants to confess.
Then put it behind you and have a nice dinner. If she contines to lie, ignore her. Change the subject. FL, I had to go for 6 months without talking to my son when he refused to do what was right. I hated it, it bothered me, but he knew that I would not tolerate certain things from him.
Eventually, the love in their hearts breaks through the stupidity of their youth. Eventually, they respect you standing for what's right. With four over 18 now, I can say that without fail they eventually understand. But I don't know that they will understand if we continue to accept bad behaviour. Because I never did.
This is something that (rightfully) bothers you. Tell her that you want to speak and after you speak she can either come clean or continue to deny something that you know for a fact. Tell her how you feel. Then have a dinner together. At her age, she is old enough to be told the truth. At her age, she needs to have some consequences for her actions. But she also needs to know that she doesn't have certain powers over you. The power to depress, etc. Even if you are about it, you must not let her know that.
FL, I had my house re-keyed to prevent my son from coming in. That was his consequence. He still does not have a key to my house. I plan on having one in his stocking this Christmas, but that's not because of anything I did. It's because of things he has done to atone. It was time for him to start acting like an adult and he has, so he will have some benefit for that. But if he went back to his old ways, I'd call a locksmith and re-key the house again.
I hope you have fun this weekend with your war games.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and I can't remember if your son was visiting at the same time or not as the money was taken.
That said, I know she has a history of issues as I follow your thread often, but could there be any possability that your son maybe be "acting" out for the first time in this manner? I say this with caution because again I can't remember if he was there or not. But, if he was and you didn't see her take it, is there a possability? After all the poor boy sees, all that his sisters throw out there; it wouldn't be out of the realm for any child to react to his current situation in unusual manner.
Just a thought FLTC and I hope you are not offended by this suggestion. I am really pulling for your kids and you!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
