True, I'm sorry you are feeling a bit down this weekend. I know you are thinking about the divorce papers, but you know what? They may not come to you for a while. I would try to focus on the day and let tomorrow take care of itself.
Now about your h and his going away....I seriously doubt that he's gone any where at all. The only going away he's done is hide in his apartment because the depression has taken hold of him. Sometimes, they tell us they are doing this or that or going this place or that place and they have gone absolutely no where but the thoughts are in their heads only.
What type of job are you looking for? It sounds like you need to be thinking more outside of the box and look for something totally different from what you are currently looking for.
I do hope the weather will be better for you. We are experiencing a bit of your weather today.
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi Snodderly, Thank you for your kind words and compassion. Your posts always mean a lot to me and make me feel a bit better.
I do think H is not at his place as his neighbour sent him and email about something to do with its sale. And I also called to check if he is really not there and nobody answered. He does not have call recognition so he couldn't know that it was me who called. I agree with you that he is depressed. He also seem to be still running from something.
Anyway, H agrees to all my conditions for the D. So at least that is good for a change.
I am looking for an office job but would only like to take a job I enjoy doing. I really hated my last job and I don't want to spend 8 hours a day anymore disliking everything. I have not given up hope of finding something. As you said, I might look for something totally different.
I went out with a GF yesterday. When we drove to the restaurant we wanted to go to, the fog was so thick that we hardly saw the road in front. The restaurant did not exist anymore and we drove home. We had such a laugh as we suddenly passed the same restaurant again about 10 minutes later. There was a detour which obviously took us back and we could not recognise where the road took us.
Thanks again for popping by - you seem to always be there for me at the right time. Have a lovely week.
True, I had to laugh at your "going round and round" by the restaurant. I've done it myself on a dark night. Just think of it as a lesson in mlc. This is what your h is doing....going round and round and comes right back to the same place--unhappiness and seeking that illusive dream of happiness. I'm glad that you and your friend didn't have an accident and laughed about it....another lesson.....learning to laugh at your mistakes.
True, I'm glad that I can post to you and make you feel a bit better. Each and every poster needs to know that we all do care about them. I walked the path you are on many years ago and was so thankful for the friends that I made here and still have contact w/every week. The friendships that are made here will last a lifetime, for they are based on the trials and tribulations of day-to-day pain and suffering that we all have experienced from a spouse and/or companion that has walked away. True friendship is being there for someone and not being afraid to say what is on your mind and the other party willing to listen and take from the advice what is needed to work on the situation. It's a give and take and we all try to give and take here and hopefully, in time the rewards will be plentiful for all.
True, enjoy your week. I do hope that you find the job you are seeking. Keep your mind and heart open for when you least expect it, something of interest just may tumble onto your path for you to see.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Sorry TL that you are down. Keep in mind it's only a piece of paper. It can't change what you once were, or who you were as a couple, or take away your fond memories it is only a symbol of the current state of affairs.
Enjoy your time for now. Find new interests if you can.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Sorry TL that you are down. Keep in mind it's only a piece of paper. It can't change what you once were, or who you were as a couple, or take away your fond memories it is only a symbol of the current state of affairs.
Thanks for your kind words. No, it cannot change anything.
Hi MWG, Thanks for thinking of me, I also think often of you.
Journaling: I met with a few friends over the week-end and we did a few things together. Friday evening I went to a concert in the local church which was beautiful. Otherwise I did nothing too exciting, but a least it got me out of the house.
My emotions are a rollercoaster at the moment. I am in regular contact with H regarding the D, and it all makes me so sad.
The days are getting shorter and wetter and are so depressing. However, Saturday afternoon was beautiful and I went for a nice walk.
I am trying to organize my life. I often think of all the people on the BB who post to me. It just makes me so sad that one of the partners does not want to work at the R and wants to throw away all the years of happiness and love.
I walked the path you are on many years ago and was so thankful for the friends that I made here and still have contact w/every week
I keep forgetting that you were in the same painful situation. I am sorry that you also had to experience so much pain and I wish you only the best in your life. I just find it so good of you that you still continue to help so many people on this BB.
Thank you for checking on me & posting on my thread!
I totally agree with you about snodderly & the others that have walked this path before & how much comfort & help they can give us.
I'm so sorry you are talking D with you H now, but again it is only a piece of paper. Look at me, my H is married again & off in another country but for some reason I can't give up on him right now. I don't know why but I can't, I could be totally wrong. I just keep praying.
I wish only the best for you!! Hang in there!! Thinking about you!
True and nlt, Everything looks dark and dismal right now because of the circumstances that have been shown to you. True, the discussions of divorce and what may occur in the near future. Nlt, your h has remarried and run away to China. That's the present that has been shown to you. Ladies, you still have the future to look forward to. None of us knows what the future holds and you just might be the lucky ones to have your husbands return to you. Keep the light on, have faith in yourselves and in God. When the time is right, the future and what it may hold for you will be shown to you. Right now, God has a reason for holding back....lessons to be learned by one and all.
Get plenty of rest this week and enjoy the beautiful days that are given to you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi Snodderly, Nice of you to come by. Thank you for your comforting words. You are so right about not knowing what the future holds.
I just came back from a super Jazz concert. I met some people I knew from work and they did not recognize me! It is so funny to watch them thinking hard about who I could be. I changed my hairstyle quite a bit during the last few years and lots of people don't regocnize me anymore.
Tomorrow evening I am going to a musical and hope it will also be good.
I always purk up a bit when I go out and enjoy the performance, even if I go on my own. It is just so difficult at home being alone on gloomy and grey days.
