GFI, I do not like that he has stopped attending church and trying to live for the Lord. I do not like that he does not do 'extras' anymore. He does not ever offer to go above and beyond in anything. For example, work overtime when they ask him so we have extra money, clean the house for me when I work at both my jobs (a 14 hour day), take care of the kids' needs like doctor appointments and when they need school supplies. We have always spent time during the summer working on the upkeep of our house. I am a teacher and he works swing shift so I am off in the summer and he has 4 days off in a row each month. We have not done anything in the last five years. He used to do for others and try to help out people like his elderly grandmother. He has stopped doing that also. He shows no affection at all to me unless we are in front of his family and I believe he does this just so they will not know he had an affair and I hate him But the worst part is the way he parents and interacts with our kids now. We have always been strict but loving parents. We were both on the same page, never fought in front of the kids, never cussed or drank in front of them, etc. He has decided that he can be closer to them if he acts like them but he still wants control so he is polar opposites...one minute he is cool dad and the next he is a total ass. I am not sure what would make me like and respect him again. I feel like I have 3 kids instead of 2 now. He acts like a spoiled child instead of an adult, or I guess I should say my expectations of an adult.
Steve, I have also opened a checking account and started putting money aside. If someone handed me ten grand today, I would be gone. I don't want my kids to suffer and I do not want to leave my home, but I would and will when the right time comes. Every day I feel like that time is closer. A boss at one of my jobs had a house for rent, REALLY cheap price for this area. I thought that was my sign but someone beat me to it. I do not usually make reflex decisions and am trying my best not to now. The limbo does not do me to well either.
Last edited by Kelly23; 11/13/0802:26 AM.
M:38 H:42 T:20 M:19 D:18 S:17 MLC: Sometime in 2007 OW Bomb 1: 12/28/07 OW Online relationship 2: Spring 2009 Told him I wanted D: May 10, 2009 D final: 07/09/11
But the worst part is the way he parents and interacts with our kids now. We have always been strict but loving parents. We were both on the same page, never fought in front of the kids, never cussed or drank in front of them, etc. He has decided that he can be closer to them if he acts like them but he still wants control so he is polar opposites...one minute he is cool dad and the next he is a total ass. 