I think it is a good think that he hears that you are involved in your church meetings. And I think that the more OK you seem to be with your life, the more likly it is he will look at the attraction of being with you, instead of fearing starting a relationship again before being sure that that is what he wants.
If other people question the fact that you are still giving him time, don't forget that he has most definitely not moved on with his life either. And right now guilt isn't keeping him around, it's keeping him away.
I know the rollercoaster you are on. And I know about having a crummy annaversary. But remember that everyone on this message board belives that what you are doing right now is the right thing to do. Just be strong & be his friend.
