Here's two, M from Tennessee, ice cold. \:\)

Am I done? I want to be but if I were really done, I guess I would not be worried about the kids and would kick him out. I am totally disconnected from him and basically do not even like him. We do not fight and argue. He has just become a selfish, lazy, thoughtless jerk. We have talked, went to counseling for six months, and I journaled my thoughts for 2 months and then gave them to him to read so he could understand how I was feeling. Nothing changed.

I cannot stand being married to someone I do not respect or like. I just want to be alone. I want out.

I do wonder about it getting worse before it gets better. I am not sure why I am staying married anymore except for not wanting change.

And Steve, you are in TN too? I am also, northern middle. I keep thinking I will wake up one day and know it is the day I am telling him to get out. But I keep putting it off. I hate being weak.

Last edited by Kelly23; 11/13/08 01:45 AM.

M:38
H:42
T:20 M:19
D:18 S:17
MLC: Sometime in 2007
OW Bomb 1: 12/28/07
OW Online relationship 2: Spring 2009
Told him I wanted D: May 10, 2009
D final: 07/09/11