Wow! thats a serious dilemma for you - what are your options as you see them right now?

and further to that what are the upsides and downsides of each?

i see you have a couple of d's - how do they play in this? have they seen their Dad regularly? And what do they make of your current partner???

best - gFI

Me: 40ish
W: 40ish
Together: 20 ish years
Married: 10ish Years