Chances are, even after the D you will still be lonely. Don't assume that will change your loneliness. In fact, it will probably get worse because sometimes your kids will be with their dad. And, if you decide to date again, boyfriends, over time, tend to come and go...
Oh so true... I know at one point I felt like divorce would bring a true sense of relief and closure, but it definitely doesn't come quickly. If you read enough threads on this particular board you'll see that first hand. My advice would be to do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you can in order to try to save the marriage before you step onto the definite path of divorce.
From my own experience, I would have to say that you will know when you've had absolutely enough and divorce is the best option. Just go into it knowing that it will get tougher before it gets easier. You're in the right spot to gather help and advice in weighing on that decision. And if you are so inclined, prayer is a great thing for helping to make the decision.
