Yes, definitely don't use XH as an example! That can backfire. I meant just continuing to instill good values in general. Like... I encourage my children to carefully choose spouses, and when they have kids I want them to be committed towards working through problems rather then choosing D. Also, marry someone you care about. Don't just shack up (regardless of who else does it and thinks it's okay), and have babies out of wedlock, etc...
Just general values that sometimes get lost or convuluted when families divorce.
Yes, dating when divorced is not immoral or wrong.
(Although I personally think playing "musical chairs" with kid's lives and mixing families 2 or 3 times, raising other people's children over your own, etc... is harmful and something I really don't want my kids to grow up doing to their own children... others may disagree and think these things are okay. Not everyone has the same moral compass.. in additon, these things don't necessarily need to be pointed out or preached, some of it's just obvisous. And being a good role model is the best way to teach anything).
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