Both of you should not be paying the family premium....you are the more stable one and should pay it with her paying the single rate if you divorce. I am not sure why she did this because she could always change it if you divorce. You then can de-duct that amount from daycare or she can have an allotment taken out of her pay to you for half minus her single rate charge. or vice versa. Someone probably said she could save her cost if she paid the family rate and not you....thats why you make sure the single rate is deducted so its fair!!
But on the otherhand....anything that makes her feel the financial costs of this is a good thing if you can handle the double dip as well.
I would continue to show up etc until the presence of the OM is verified or not. Strike while the iron is hot or regret it you will.
After you email....that I would have advised against (I thought it too clingy..shows what I know) she should have pulled back but the opposite has occured! This can't be a coincidence!
Attack...Attack....pull back and access...and do it again!!
