It's a Marathon, Not a Sprint, to Happy...

[Tomato]

Hi BobbiJo- you sure seem to be getting a lot of my focus today. haha. I hope at the close of this day for you and Dan that you can both catch your breath and chalk up the needed experience from it and then get good rest for the next one.

Thank you so much, tomato. I have written to H in our dialogue sessions in the past that one strength I have is the willingness to load up my family on my back, so to speak, and carry them through any troubles.

This seems a little concerning to me. How did Dan respond to that remark when it was made ..did he likewise consider it to be a strength of yours? It is great that you have a willingness to rise to the occasion and (to coin the phrase of you Midwesterner's) "get er' done". It sure seems like, from my POV, that there have been stretches of time where things would have certainly gone in the toatally "in the crapper" if you hadn't taken the initiative to be the savior of the family so to speak. Don't know if I am spot on or not? But once things settle down in the family health department and the in-laws are getting a clean bill of health, then it will be time to ensure that Dan is made to feel that he is as much the head of the household as he elects to be. Maybe this is not the issue that I seem to be making it out to be. Don't know but perhaps worth examining. Is there a chance that he might really feel like you have encroached on space that he should be occupying. Maybe he reached the point of resignation on this potential matter and it should be revisited and maybe some shake-up of roles and responsibilities is in order. When the time is right you may have to lose some of that zeal and willingness to repeatedly take charge in so many areas. I will leave it at that and see what you think about my remarks.

I just got a new Devotional book today, going to try it out tonight before bed. Thought I should focus myself a little more...

this is great news. I am glad you did that. When is the last time you & Dan prayed together?

Thanks for the prayers, my sister has me up on the prayer wall at her church. I could use all the help I can get! Again, thanks for the support, T.

You can always expect my help and support now matter how minimal.