Quoting hoping: A few people have indicated that they don't know what I am waiting for..I am waiting for h to decide what he wants..does that sound weird, or like I am afraid to move on wihtout him..cause I am not afraid..just want to respect what he asked for last fall..and really the time thing can't be a factor..sometime when he seems in a talking mood, and I get real nerve I will ask..until then I wait..patiently..
No its not weird at all. In fact, its your God given right and freedom of choice to wait as long as you feel its right for you, so nobody else has a say in the matter! ... here on the bb (and I hope I didn't give this preception in my last posting) or in your community ... even your H doesn't have a say in what stance you decide to take!!!
Quoting hoping: He had no response..it could have sparked a conversation, but it did not.
I'm so sorry for your disappointment that H didn't prursue the oppurtunity. I know I felt disappointed in reading that, I can only imagine how let down you must feel. ((( HUGS )))
... but I caution that H seemed caught off guard by Pastor's meet with you. It could be he felt paralyzed with guilt to be able to respond ... that he could have been at a loss for words by realizing just then, the position he has placed you in that your Pastor felt she needed to check on you. It could have highlighted for him, his lack of concern for you, by not asking those questions himself ... perhaps made him feel a little inadequate in the way he has conducted himself as of late around you. Maybe he might even back off some. So if that happens, do take it personally, it more likely he is more displeased with himself, don't think his distancing is about you.
Maybe instead of video night, go out for some ice cream... ... have a good weekend Sue.
... have a good weekend Sue.