Creeping through no man's land

[ACJ]

Thanks BM

Also pleased that your S16 is making a minor comeback --- hope it turns into a major one.

I don't think this is likely to happen. He hasn't been in touch since Sunday again. I've purposefully not contacted him as I wanted to assess how much he had taken on board after our chat. Clearly nothing is the answer! You could almost say he is a fairweather son and only comes to me when he wants/needs something from me. I know that is partly what we mum's are for but it would be nice to think that he appreciated me as a human being rather than a source of extra income or an extra person to ask for a ride b/c he doesn't want to get wet.

My rollercoaster is on it's way back up the hill again. The last twenty four hours have seen H put forward another proposal with a demand for an answer within that 24 hours. It's all designed so that he can get his hands on the money he wants from me quicker than the decree nisi will come through. My L has asked a lot of questions on my behalf and has recommended that I accept this proposal on the proviso that we agree on whatever draft document they come up with. My H does not seem to be concerned with how these constant demands are affecting me and/or my children he just wants his money and he wants it fast. He says he wants it to build a proper bedroom for S16. Part of me wonders whether S16 has made hints that he wants to come home and so H wants to get the building done as a form of blackmail to keep him there. At the end of the day I suppose it's all irrelevant. Like most people here in a similar position to me the MLCer is not happy until they have taken everything from the LBS (and even then they are not really happy). As my L said I just need this man out of my life so that I can move on secure in the knowledge that he no longer has a say in my life and it is also important to get it over and done with to allow the children to move on. Even now it isn't really what I want but I know she is right if only for economic/financial reasons.