Trying2live-Post #4

[hope3343]

Hi everyone, just came from the meeting with H. He looked bloated, eyes red, overweight. Maybe my rose colored glasses are off these days! I felt very confident especially after coming from my yoga class!
After meeting we walked out together and spent about 1/2 hour talking first about work and then H asked about D15. I told her about school, homework and never mentioned D15 not talking to him. H mentioned he missed her. I said nothing.
Then H says how he has gained so much weight and he says he is eating all junk and putting weight on (and drinking like a fish!). So I said but once you start to work out you always look great, you look fine to me (gag) (Admiration #2).

Then H says you look really good and really lost alot of weight. So I decided to use my feminine side (T2L -- your suggestion). I say yes I lost weight and I think the Yoga is really helping also with all the stretching and positions.

Then I drop a 180 -- I said it figures that now that I lost weight, learning all these new positions in Yoga and feeling good about myself that I have noone to screw around with since you left me and I laughed (t2l - your example).... H WAS SHOCKED (Sex #1). H starts to babble and says well you have been having people over so I said well not to boink them -- and said the only thing I would tell them is NO. H was floored since I never talk that directly. Then darn it one of his employees comes over and starts to talk to him. So i said well take care see you later and walk away.

So I go back to my desk and send a comment about a work project and add this...

Thanks for telling me about losing weight. I appreciate it coming from you. You know how I always struggled with that.

Hope I did not embarrass you too much on how "good" I was feeling and you not being around. I guess I must have been standing too close to you and my temperature went up...You still look fine to me! (smile) ;-)

I know he opened it and I did not expect a return e-mail. Don't know if H will show OW since I mentioned that he complimented me but if he does I know the claws will come out.

T2L -- so how did I do????

All, You have made great strides. Your H seems very passive agressive but I know he does not know how to take you. Keep that confidence up with GAL and then it will come into play with H.

Marisol, glad you are busy with family/friends. Keep it up. I do want to contact my H but I have been pretty strong this last week. It is coming up to about 5/6 months with H starting this A with OW so I am hoping soon they will start to see their bad sides. Sorry about seeing myspace picture but save it for atty just in case.

We all want our M restored and if it takes a month for each year of marriage (i read that somewhere) I still have a long long haul if I can keep H from D me in the future. Keep praying