He is not seeing an IC and has mentioned that he just doesn't have time right now, ever since his company bought a canadian company, he has been traveling 4 days every two weeks. Add his parents' troubles into the mix, and I am sure he will be trying to support them more in the coming mix. He won't see where he has time to do it...
He hasn't mentioned his parents directly. But Monday night when he came in from work, I went to him on the stairs/entryway and put my arms around him. I just hugged him and said I was sorry it was such a crappy situation, I knew I couldn't fix it but I was sorry he had to go through it....he said thanks.
H gets really annoyed when I am a "fixer", I tend to want to help when things are wrong with/for him, and he doesn't like that. Even saying "sorry your parents are sick", to him, he is like "Why are you sorry? You didn't make them sick..."
So I choose my words carefully, I say things now like, "Well, that sucks, too bad it's happening and let me know if there is anything I can do"...
Depending on how bad the scenario actually is, things could swing either way. He could reject me/isolate himself entirely, or finally reach a point where he allows himself to lean on me. I actually let myself think "what if" this morning. What if the worst happens, he loses his parents, would his siblings make him sell off the farm? Then he would have lost everything where the farm is concerned, since his aunt/uncle already took half of it when his granparents died...
But I need to stay in the moment. Right now, both of his parents are here. Which is a good thing. And I can be as loving and supportive as I can be, without being too smothering. The rest is beyond my control...
