I agree with B~ you need to put your foot down. ( your last post explains the dynamic so much better. ) I cant tell you how to do it... I just am learning recently to do this and I have been married for 12 years... if you dont stop it you will surely live like this the rest of your life. She has no reason to change she likes things the way they are. Good luck to you my friend, Yours is a tough one but not impossible... Right now she has your balls in her hands.... Sorry to be so blunt~ BTDT~ I used to let my Husband dictate everything and nothing ever seemed good enough. It is no way to live. ( I was secretly MISERABLE~) Read , arm yourself with knowledge and work with your counselor. Work on your worth and being strong and living your truth. Or she will hold those things in her hands forever.... The goal? To walk beside one another in every way.... and right now she is dragging you and that also is a part of your resentment. God bless you. ~Ava
