Don't take her seriously. Just focus on your kids and be a good dad. I'm not saying to avoid your XW, I'm just saying don't let her play with your head. If she says things, just smile and act like your life has gone on (which is what you have to do). Just think of her as as the babysitter or nanny. Just another person on the street.
Focus on your kids and creating great memories with them. Be the "Disneyland Dad." If your time with them is not as long as you like, make every moment of it very very special. Arrange to take them special places and give them 100% of yourself when you are with them.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
