You guys have been a life saver...again..today I am more upbeat...just some days the tears and doubts can overwhelm me. I know I need to keep living "as if"...

CM..we have been s 9 mos..so I know deep down that is not an outrageous amount of time to think about the rest of your life. I am not going to ask..his lease is up un Nov., and I hope he will let me know his plans about that..

PnT..I would not decorate it his way.. I may sound weak..but no way would it just be his ideas!!!!!Just some input would be nice..I assume he's been ok with our home all these years, but what if that has contributed to his feelings...oh well we will have to deal with that if we mend our m back.
Thanks for all the great ideas..they do help

Sue