I used to teach PreK and it was always VERY important to me to know about these things. And let me tell you, I loved those kids with every bit of my heart. (Honestly, it helped keep me in my home.) I had two last year with families separating, and when they were having an off day, sometimes they just got some extra time on my lap, things like that. And I knew when to say to a parent..hey Child seems angry today. Things like that. Let these teachers help you. They've heard it before, so don't be embarrassed.
Also, Tom, kids say things. You don't know what odd comment either of them could have dropped.
Funny story...I had a kid last year tell me..."My daddy wears dresses." And I say...oookaaay. I think you're being silly.
Tom, your wife sounds nuttier and nuttier. Wow!!! She has had a rough time of it, huh?
She has had a rough time. I feel empathy for some times when I can see the pain in her eyes; but then she just keeps on keeping on and that empathy disappears.
She might have a PD; but I still believe that she knows what she's doing and that she knows right from wrong. I just wonder if her coping skills, or lack there of, prevent her from making the right choices.
I know that sounds scary but sometimes you have to be cruel to kind. If you have her families support then i think you should seriously consider.
All in the name of leaving " no stone unturned". If she has a professional diagnosis, one way or the other, then you win. If there is a problem she will be in the right place for serious treatment and help and if she is kicked out as being of sound mind, then you know for sure your better out of the M for everyones sake.
If you think it is something you could do, then go for it. She aint going to like you for it , but does not sound like she likes you anyway. Nothing to lose.
1. She's never had a professional diagnosis. I doubt that she would ever get one.
2. I'm not going to do anything of the sort. If her behavior becomes so rash that it comes close to that and she's a danger to herself or someone else; I would just have her admitted to a regular hospital. A medical professional could then make a determination.
Given that I'm not a mental health professional; I think that without intent to harm on her part, I am in no place to make a determination of such magnitude.
In fact, I appreciate everyone's views on this. I know she's not right; but I feel inherently evil just discussing this.
So I would like to drop the subject of committing my W to a mental hospital. If her behavior warrants action; you guys will find out, I'm sure.
Sorry if I left you with the impression this is a good idea. I don't think it is. I have a problem with the suggestion she is "nuttier and nuttier." Our W's can't really help it I figure. This is all that they know and it is how they were raised. Not my job to fix my W, just love her the best I can. I hope conferences go well. My S had his first B+ in math he had gotten A's. I blame the situation for him slipping. Hope you get a stellar report.
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