WOW...where do I begin..when I need a lift, I can always count on you guys around here!!!
PnT.. LL..Dotto..Christina..Jim..Andrea..Cathy..I am over-whelmed by the responses..I do need to refocus..I let the sad feelings take over my emotions..then the doubts and the "what ifs"...H has never cared really about the decorating..I have always assumed he is ok with what I want..but like you said, Christina, what if I have never given him the chance..I can't change the past..and you know what we have more important things to worry about then the color of a wall
LL...I guess I am not sure why I feel like h has it any better or easier then I do..I come and go without worrying about anyone..our kids are still at home,but gone alot and sometimes I wish I had the house to myself more or for longer periods...
Christina Maria..did your h tell you he felt like his ideas did not count? I don't know at this point if that is how my h feels..I think some of that plays a part..I have always done EVERYTHING..from cooking to garbage out..and now I look back and wonder why didn't I ask for help..or insist on help..I was an at home mom for so long that it all just got done..now h is doing own laundry..cleaning(maybe), cooking, paying bills...all the things I took over and did..so that will have to be a discussion if he comes back.
Cathy..it must be tough with a 3 year old..my kids are 20 and 23..but still live at home and go to college..so I don't have to take care of them..I still worry... It is amazing what a new color on the walls can do to life yoour spirits..the bedroom is next...I have some ideas for a cottage look..but again..it is still "our" bedroom, even though he's not here..it is very hard for me to just go and redo things..I try to put myself in his place and I know I would not like him redoing "our" home to only is liking.
If things were more definite and he would have left with the intention of d or we did not interact like we do, I would not have as much of a problem changing the things..but we have been here 20 years..and he had a little input..maybe it would be a good way to have a r talk..to see if he has any thoughts about wanting to work on the m and coming back some day...that is a scary area for me..I am afraid of the answer..but will have to face it eventually...if I would only try to think optimistic and not pessimistic on that one.
