How is today Karen? Are the kids feeling better? I am getting a cold again, yuck but what can you do when the weather flips back and forth and you never know what you are going to get for sure?!
S13 is home sick today. Hopefully he will feel better by tonight since ex's family is celebrating d9's birthday early. She will be 10 on Saturday. We are taking her to Kansas City. There is a place that has rides inside. Nothing like Mall of America mind you but bumper cars and rollercoasters for younger kids and plane type rides. the kids will have fun I hope. we are going with my parents.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
That sounds like fun to me. My town is so tiny livestock competitions are the exciting thing!!! Sorry but don't get that!
We celebrated S15's birthday yesterday. I made a chocolate cake with chocolate frosting as tradition. H bought one from Publix on Sunday so the kids are probably OD'ing on chocolate, but I'm helping out too!
The kids saw the C this am. Went fine I think. S15 is still sick, but D8 is feeling better I think. Taking a break off school today like everyone else so nice. I saw the C today this pm. She was all worried about me quitting the job, but when I explained the Excel/Mac skills (actually that I lack) and that I'm going to take a class and work on that also, and now really consciously looking for jobs that aren't 99% computer-related. She agrees people skills are more my strength and interest. I'm going to try to more psychology (my BS degree in that) and education fields which is where I'd be able to do that. So we'll see....I know I should be really worried about the future, but with my faith and pma lately, I'm just feeling great. Like I told the C today, this is probably the happiest I've been since D8 was born even though I'm going through a divorce! Karen
No wonder we get along so well...I am a psych major too!! My dad always pushed math and science though so I have some of those skills and my dad loves having the newest gadget so I was learning pc skills even as a young teen.
No I am not great at excel but I can use it. Every little bit helps. Glad you are feeling good.
kat
Oh and Happy Belated Birthday to Daniel!
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thanks so much! I know I should just say Jamie and Daniel b/c I think everyone here knows their names anyway!!!
Well, I also realized today at the C that I think our marriage really started disintegrating not 2 years ago when the EA started, but I'm thinking at the time D8 was born. I guess b/c of her autism or something, from birth on she would cry/scream/meltdown every afternoon around 4 or 5 and then until midnight!!! Which happens to be around when H would have been home. That's when he started doing triathlons 40 hours a week training. He would tell me he was working 60 hours a week at his job, but then he told me a couple years later (guess he forgot the lies) that he was really working 35 hours and the rest was triathlon training. I can't completely blame him, b/c Jamie was crying like that until she started on medication at age 4. It was a long 4 years btw.
I think that's when I dealt with that by getting some depression, and H dealt with that by staying away from the stress of Jamie and a depressed wife. I know they say something like 80% or so of families with autism divorce, and I bet a lot either go through the depression and distancing that we did. So he had one foot kind of already out the door, when he got involved with OW, so not that tough for him.
It somehow makes me feel better not to just think of him as a jerk or bad guy, but somebody that deals with stress by the way he does. I'd get depressed and he'd go run a marathon!
I do still have some bumps in the road with H. I took the kids to a nearby park this afternoon for an hour. We got home at 4:15 and H showed up at 4:16. If he had been there any earlier would have had to wait for the kids. Just assumed we'd be there waiting for him although normally he comes by Tues. at about 7. Didn't call or email to let me know he'd be there early which would have been fine of course. I'm bummed we didn't stay longer so he would have had to wait at least a bit.
H took the kids to spend time with OW (gag) and then when they came home, he comes into my room to tell me about some Sorry tips (Jamie's new favorite game) so it makes the game go faster (b/c we play it twice a day with her)! That was nice, but yeah, he violated my boundaries. I still haven't confronted him on that and hated to do it when he was being nice. It would help me out if he'd come in yelling again, then it would be easier!!!
Oh, and thanks for the Happy Birthday for Daniel, Kat! I can't believe how fast they grow! And really in Daniel's case b/c he's a little bit taller than me now and size 14 shoes!!! Karen
Hey, H4H. I was looking for your thread today and think it was locked. Do you have a new one? I'd love to share some cake with you, but it's almost gone. My S15 really is a good eater!!!
Ok, guys, I think H is crazy. He was trying to pick a fight or something and wants me to take S15 to return his gift he got him (it was a Mature video game for 17+ with intense sex and violence and gore! and we've limited him to teen rated games). So I emailed back sure, I'll exchange it, leave $20 for me and the kids to get some food at the mall (it's a 45 minute drive from my house and a 5 minute drive from his). And I said sounds like fun! (B/c I think he said that to start a fight). So then he emails back it was a gift from both of us. I was following advice given to me to ignore some of his emails, and he's emailed me the same email 10 times now emailing the same email every minute or 2! I'm thinking I'll just keep ignoring him, and drive him even crazier, but does anyone think that's a bad idea??? Karen
It was a gift from both of you but you don't allow him to play those level of games??? He obviously isn't paying attention. Unless you discussed it, it couldn't have been from both of you and he can exchange the darn thing next time he takes the kids. What an f*tard!!
I would ignore him. I think he is slightly mental.
kat PS, I am feeling up for a movie night soon...any thoughts?
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Yep, but slightly mental, sometimes I'm thinking majorly mental!
Yeah, we didn't discuss it, and S15 thought it was from him, b/c he needed a Wii Nunchuck with it and asked me to give him that for his b-day, so I did. I think it's from both of us just when it will save him trouble! He said he didn't notice the rating and S15 didn't, you would think between them both one of them would notice! H spends most of his time on the blackberry still so I don't think he does pay too much attention to kid-related stuff. I've come in several times to the room where H is with the kids and they're usually watching TV and he's texting OW. I mean spends 2 hours with them and can't wait until he sees her after.
Movie night sounds good. Whose turn is it to pick?
I am not sure with H4H, he didn't get to watch the movie with us and you haven't picked a while. One of you two can decide.
kat
Fine, I'll fight him for it! Actually he picked once and didn't get to watch it, and I've picked 2 or 3 movies so I think it might be his turn next.... Karen
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