Hi Sue: I think a lot the same of PnT... Sometimes we put too much expectations to our H responses or actitude... This vicious habbit has awfull effects on me, so, i am working a lot stoping expectations, receiving so gratefull and happy what he is bringuing me, and trying to focus on the little baby steps... Also i think maybe is something else that it is bothering you... bc when there is some things bothering us, we focus too much on this little aspects... i am wrong...? it is so difficult to rebuild the M... primarly bc us... the part who suffer too much and is still to much hurt.. the part that has to forgive and to think in positive... but we can make this work... Go ahead girl...!!... you can...!! Andrea