Too bad about not getting past the 2nd date. Better to find out now than to get too far along. What is frustrating is telling someone all about yourself and learning about them only to find one of you does not feel it.
The last I checked, the Phoenix area has close to 5 million people, and of those, there are probably a few thousand girls that are your match. You will find someone eventually that makes you as one together.
Hey, Kerry. Yes there are a ton of ladies down here, so I know I'll be fine in time. However, I honestly may back off for a while and not look to date anyone.
It was weird, but this one did sting a bit, which made me feel as if I might be too vulnerable right now to seriously date. I was really feeling good about this one and yes, it does stink to open up and start talking about yourself, etc. only to see things shut down.
I didn't think I'd be too bummed about it, but I was allowing myself to really like this one, so I think it may be in my best interest to back things off at least through the end of the year, if not longer.
Like always, we'll see and as long as I continue to move forward step by step, I'll be ok.
No, I know that it is usually best when you just let it happen and that is why I'm a bit suprised this put me back as much as it did. However, it did get me thinking and I'm now sure that I'm not ready to date, so I'm going to stop that venture.
The biggest problem is being lonely. I haven't done a good job of reaching out to friends (until today when I sent out lifeline requests), so that will help me tremendously to get out and be social.
I do miss the warmth and tenderness of being w/ someone. I miss the touch and feel of it all, which is why yesterday really brought me down. That will come, but I do still miss it.
So, the plan now is to move forward and not place myself in positions where I'll be sinking downward. It is a good thing to realize, and I too am glad this did happen sooner rather than later.
Now I can hopefully do a better job of refocusing on me and my growth and improvement so when I am emotionally ready, I'll be just fine.
You dont stay away from the water till you learn how to swim... I told you and I am telling you again... Get out there just for fun and relaxed convos, coffees, dinners... Dont rush into anything serious but get out there...
ohhhh andddddddd HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! It's 10 before midnight here and it's soon your birthday... This year, will be great!!! you want to bet?
Hey is it your birthday Rob !??? HAPPY BIRTHDAY !! (for tommorow!)
I'm sorry your lady friend didnt want to see you again, but you said..
"I might be too vulnerable right now to seriously date. I was really feeling good about this one and yes, it does stink to open up and start talking about yourself, etc. only to see things shut down."
.. perhaps she senses that, that as you are fresh out of a D.. and I dont know what things you opened up about, but maybe she got a bit scared that you are not all healed yet from your D.
I was a bit surprised to hear you were going to try dating, I dont know you, but you didnt sound ready to me. Judging by the amount of pain your W has put you through this year. I agree with Kerry, do some sociable things with woman, maybe in group sitches? But maybe not 1 on 1. There is no way I would risk it yet, as I know I am vunerable and it would cut me up if I saw someone for a while and then they ended it.
So, dont be blue, you are a fantastic guy, you just need a little more time...
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
